To really change your life takes only one thing and that’s courage. Courage cannot be taught in an article. I think it is found when you realise just how far away your life is from what you want it to be. The reason that courage is needed in order to change your life is that often to improve your life you have to lose some parts of it that are reasonably alright. Letting go of mediocrity can be a difficult thing when the other option is an unknown abyss of possible sadness. While many people allow the terror of the unknown to prevent them from changing their lives, there are those that actually do transform their lives beyond recognition. They simply pick out the things that make them unhappy and then they throw them away. I will now list the three biggest changes that you can make.
Quit your job
Considering your job takes up a good forty hours of your week one of the biggest changes you can make is simply to quit and find something new. Of course this can be a terrifying prospect with endless questions and no clear answers. However if you are not fulfilled by your current career and if you are not on the road to one that will fulfil you, do you really have anything to lose? The best question to ask in order to help you build up the courage is simply whether you want to still be working there in five years.
If the answer is no, you really need to do something about it.
Break up with your partner
Unfortunately in order to find a relationship that genuinely makes you happy, you need to lose the one that makes you comfortable. Many unhappy marriages are built upon this premise and it is a very easy trap to fall into. Five years into a relationship things are comfortable things are easy and the singles world from long ago sounds like a terrifying abyss of awkwardness, loneliness and rejection. However, if you are not happy in your current relationship, the alternative is mediocrity and you need to ask whether you deserve better than that.
Hit the Road
In many ways there is no bigger change that you can make. To be somewhere completely new, away from everything and every one you know can be a shock to the system. It can be a terrifying but exciting prospect and almost the definition of endless opportunities. The world is a big place and if the small space that you call home is grey and drab, its important to remember that there are jungles both urban and natural that can be found and explored. Any complicated relationships, any routes that you have driven thousands of times, any pubs you hate, they can all disappear for the price of a plane ticket.
Of course there are those that are reasonably happy with their job, relationship and location but would just like things to be different and hopefully better. If your decision not to quit your job or end a relationship is not based upon fear than by all likelihood it’s the right move and there are other less destructive things that you can do to change your life. If you generally spend every night on front of the television, get the cable cut off for a few weeks. If you are a heavy drinker, quit for a while. We all get bored by routine. By finding the aspects of our lives that are the most routine and changing them, we can in a small way change our life for the better. However, if those routine things are removed and you are still desperately unhappy, perhaps you need to scan back up to the larger life changes that can be made. They are more difficult but the rewards are not even comparable.