5 Activities To Boost Your Self Esteem

As explained in my article on how to gain self confidence, building up your self esteem can be a long and highly introspective process. I do however believe that there are short cuts. Of course they are by no means a permanent solution to low self esteem but they can give you a kick in the right direction. And at times that is all people need. The following five activities are very good at giving an immediate boost to your self esteem levels.

Improve How you Look

The sad fact is we live in a superficial world and regardless of what anyone says we all care about how we look. Though beauty is of course on the inside etc a large part of our self image is based upon how we look. Therefore if you want a quick way to become more confident, improve how you look. There are many ways that this can be done from working out and losing weight to just buying some new clothes and getting a hair cut. Many people with low self esteem will not bother to do these things and it kind of leads to a vicious circle.

Achieve Something

It doesn’t necessarily matter what this one thing is but what I know for sure is that low self esteem feeds off of inactivity and laziness. If you are killing yourself working at something ten hours a day and you know at the end of it you have achieved something than you will feel good about yourself. And generally provided you choose something worthwhile, you will also have the rewards of your work as well as your new found self esteem so it’s kind of a win-win.

Do Something that Scares You

Many people are surprised by just what they are capable of. Very little can boost your self esteem more than taking on something that you have always been afraid to do and then finding out that you are actually more than capable of doing it. This could be asking somebody out on a date, confronting somebody that is always putting you down or just making some form of change in your life that you have been putting off. You may be surprised by the results.

Fake It

Though this cannot go on forever with people that know you well as they will eventually see through it, it can work with people you don’t know or won’t know for long periods of time. Faking confidence is actually pretty straight forward. With the right body language and the right amount of eye contact nobody need know that you are an insecure person. Often just seeing that you can give this impression of yourself can offer a massive boost.

Take a Trip Alone

Learning that you are a truly independent person can be very dignifying. Nothing proves independence more than taking a trip short or long alone and realising that you are perfectly fine that way. To realise that you are not dependent on others can also lead to you caring far less what others think which therefore defeats a common symptom of people with low self esteem.

What is Leadership?

This question is the subject of countless student essays, endless governmental speeches and various seminars that cost quite a bit to sit through. Though it is obviously debatable and such debate will continue among academics for years to come, here are ten characteristics that many agree are required in order to be a good leader.


A good leader needs to be both passionate about the work that he is doing and about those that are helping him to do it. It is this passion that enables him to inspire those around him to greatness. His passion is both highly visible and contagious.


A good leader will care about those that are helping him to achieve his vision and therefore will treat them with respect. He will accept that people are not machines but human beings who make mistakes. While expecting hard work, he will not demand perfection.

Possess Integrity

A good leader will not talk just to hear his own voice, he will mean every word that he says and in doing so will earn respect. He is someone that upon making a guarantee delivers upon said guarantee and in doing so he is known as trustworthy and reliable. He will be persuasive but he will not manipulate and he will treat those below him with as much respect as he treats those above him.

Great Communicator

A good leader will be an expert at explaining himself and his goals. He will of course be comfortable with public speaking but will also be a good listener. He will have a way with people and be highly capable of persuading people to follow his lead. Such communication skills will be part of the reason that people are willing to accept him as their leader.


Though not strictly a requirement, the majority of great leaders are captivating individuals. It is within such charisma and charm that their lives as leaders are made easier, often able to take control of situations with minimal effort. People are drawn to and respect charismatic leaders.


A good leader requires vision. It is through such vision that he can lead others in such a way that results can be achieved and deadlines met. He will know exactly where he wants to go and both how to get there and how to help others get there too. It is through such vision and confident communication of that vision that a good leader can motivate those around him.


A good leader will not just expect discipline but be disciplined himself. Upon taking on a project, he will remain focused on it until completion. He will not stand by and expect others to do the work; he will frequently be the hardest worker out of the team that he is leading.


A good leader will never be afraid to stand up for what he believes to be right. In order to be a leader, decisions will have to be made that are both popular and unpopular. Though he will not be afraid to admit when he was wrong, he will also not be afraid to assert his opinion, regardless of the opinion of those around him, if he believes himself to be right.


A truly great leader will not only be intelligent but wise. History is full of intelligent but unwise leaders and the lack of said wisdom was frequently their downfall. The life of a leader typically involves the need to make important decisions, to truly be a great leader, the wisdom to know the right call is required.